Aug 18

Dear friends

I went to France and didn’t tell you about it because I was too busy feeling cold and crying about being far away from my lover. Now I am back home.

I will be going back to France again for four more months so maybe I can set out some time from crying to write about some of the other things I do.

I do not get excited about brunch in Paris. I don’t want to take Instagram pictures of macarons. I will not be going on a Contiki tour around Europe.

Don’t act so disappointed. In France, it’s never dommage, always fromage.

Nov 1

I’ve done many different kinds of sex work. I’ve been a cam girl, a porn performer, a professional sub, and a performer at a peep show (similar to a stripper). I’ve also been working in retail and food service simultaneously.

I get so frustrated at how I’m treated at work. It really gets to me. I find myself involuntarily crying once I get into my car to drive home. I hate how dehumanizing it is. People don’t acknowledge me as a person. They think I’m less than them because of my job. Maybe they don’t actively think that, but that’s how they treat me. Oh, by the way, I’m talking about the food service job.

When I’m doing sex work I can refuse a customer. I can be rude to them if they are being rude to me. I don’t have to apologize for their mistakes. I don’t have to be sweet when they are being inappropriate. I negotiate my limits, and I only do what I feel comfortable doing. They don’t get to order off the menu, I’m not going to bend over backwards for them.

I find it oppressive to work for minimum wage. I find it oppressive to act like the customer is always right. I find it dehumanizing to apologize for things that aren’t my fault, like how much something costs or if you order something wrong and you want it remade the correct way. I find it dehumanizing to say “Hi! How are you?” and in response get “Yeah I just need a blah blah blah” and then have a customer go back to their cell phone conversation. I hate being reduced to a cash register.

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Reblogging this again because IT’S JUST SO GOOD

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Fucking this

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